Why I can't be fat

Fatness is not something we should accept as is and not do anything about it. Period. As a person who has always struggled with her weight I know first hand it sucks to be heavy. It's not really an aesthetic problem, it's a huge medical issue. But also the factor that makes your daily life that much harder and uncomfortable.

Acceptance does not mean not seeking change. For me accepting my large body means being honest with myself about:

• having tendency to overeat for pleasure,
• loving my food,
• being an emotional eater,
• not really liking myself in the larger version,
• having clothes I am frustrated not to fit into,
• and acknowlegding all the aches, pains and lacks in physical shape that go hand in hand with the extra kilos.

I do accept myself in the skin I am, but that also means that I can feel I am not happy. As wise people say: acceptance is the first and necessary step to making change. Acceptance is not about letting yourself go. It is about understanding your needs, preferences and problems. 

We can find a solution only when we clearly state the problem with all it's impacting factors.

Acceptance for me is a sort of evaluation of the good and the bad in my life and what needs to stay and what needs to change.

The state of my body needs to improve. I want to get to my ideal weight (not that low for that matter) and get back into physical shape. In the summer I need to be as mobile as I can be, going for long long walks and enjoying beautiful weather. I cannot accept that I put myself in a situation of poor health. And for what? Another cookie?

It is important to live your life and be happy. And food is one of the more miniscule daily joys. I will not trade my happiness and freedom to enjoy different sides of life for even the most delicious meals. It's absurd. Do not fall into the trap of giving up on yourself and crushing your health in a false belief of fatness being normal and something you cannot change. You can. And when you do, you will know you had not been living your best life.

Get healthy! Lose weight!