What are my boundaries? On adulthood.

Isn't that a life-long process to realize how close we want to let different people into our private zone and how far we can enter theirs? I don't think boundaries are something we can define a priori. We learn ourselves and others and all the dynamics, in the process of each life situation, in all relationships.
There were times in my life I had let people come too close and I don't want them around me anymore. I don't regret the lessons that came from that though. The older I get, the further I go, the more clarity over what is right and wrong for me at any particular moment I aqcuire. But as I learn to love and respect myself and not allow others to hurt me and boss me around, same is true the other way around. Love and acceptance for others mean, they are different than I am, they have the right to their own opinion and freedom. I don't own anyone anymore than anyone owns me.
These are really obvious conclusions, how often do we violate these basic truths yet? How often have we not got any respect for ourselves and others, how often are we clueless in relationships?
Boundaries - ability to set them for ourselves and respect the fact that others set them for us - make living with people less abusive, less frustrating and more straightforward. This calls for quite a great deal od maturity - the condition we sometimes lack.
But hey! Being an adult rules! You get to walk Your own path unsupervized and stay up late. Oh - and You make Your own money and decisions. You make friends, lovers and foes on Your own terms. This sort of independence makes the harsh sides of being a grown-up worth it. Do grow up people. Children are adorable till they turn 19. Then its just a pity to watch.

Music is my freedom

For me freedom is acceptance of myself - both my thoughts and my emotions - and ability to decide if I wish to express my feelings or not. Do I follow my heart or my mind? I decide every time I'm confused.
The problem for me is I can't always make head or tails of what I am actually feeling or thinking. This is where my music comes in. I tune into different beats, let myself dive into rythms and find me soaring on the wings of tunes. The freedom that music gives me is the freedom to let my spirit lose and make peace with itself and to deeply get in touch with my feeelings when I am not in position to act on them.
This kind of freedom is a sort of passive freedom, freedom in helplessness. But it gives me space to get connected to me, to feel deeply into my soul and get in tune with the inner beat of the world.
Music connects people spiritually in ways seldom possible otherwise. To be able to express one self through music must be amazing. But also consuming sounds, beats and melodies makes me extremely happy. It relaxes, it excites, it enrages, it makes me smile and fall in love.
Some music therapy anyone? Highly recommend :)